This month I particularly learned my lesson of how to deal with the inevitable. It’s difficult to accept that I can’t control everything. It’s my life but there are things decided on my behalf or consequences of decisions I have to deal with.
[Hold your horses! I don’t want offend anybody! I state my perceptions and experiences! I just know a few Chinese people personally, so my remarks are not representative!]
Here are 5 cultural differences that I witnessed being with a Chinese man for almost four years. Maybe I will write another version of this article focusing on differences in relationships.
1. Sense of Community
I noticed that many Chinese people are rather egoistic when it comes to the environment or empathy.
–THE FEAR OF MISSING OUT–
Didn’t we all exerience the peer pressure in school or university?
“What?!! You are not going to the party on Friday? You are missing out!”
When I was in my hometown during the holidays, I met my best friends. We know each other since school! One of my friends has trouble in her relationship for so long already (they are a couple since 3,5 years). I don’t want to go into detail but let’s say they fight more than they have “good days”. I am already quite sick of their relationship because they always fight and she cries about him but goes back to him…
Now that Christmas is over, my conclusion is that I like the advent season more than Christmas itself. I could lie and tell you how relaxing and unwinding Christmas was but that is not the truth.
This week’s Tuesday-Treasure:
Need to remind myself every day to not feel overwhelmed by problems and obstacles.
Facing a problem gives us the chance to reorientate us and grow from this experience.
Hopefully this quote can help you in a difficult time!
See you soon!
Why is it so difficult to ask for help? Well, you have to admit that you don’t know something (and in our perfectionist world everybody is supposed to know everything) and asking for help doesn’t just involve yourself but also the time and effort of somebody else.