–THE FEAR OF MISSING OUT–
Didn’t we all exerience the peer pressure in school or university?
“What?!! You are not going to the party on Friday? You are missing out!”
When I was teenager, the fear of missing out was more present than now. I couldn’t enjoy a Friday night at home because I knew that others had more exciting plans. But that is quite odd because a chill Friday night was exactly what I wanted and I couldn’t enjoy it!
I didn’t want to go to a party but staying at home was also not satisfying.
I feel now that I am in my mid 20s this fear dramatically decreased. You want to know why? Because I don’t give a sh*t what other people do! I don’t live their lifes and I never will. I can do (or not do) whatever I want and it is nobody’s business to judge that.
My life is not worth less just because I don’t go on big adventures, parties, festivals, concerts etc.
I just don’t like all of these things. I did these things before because of the fear and peer pressure. I thought I needed to do what is called “normal” in our society and be a “normal” teenager/young adult. But I didn’t enjoy it and now I don’t give a sh*t about what is normal. I don’t have a guilty conscience or fear of missing out anymore.
— THE FEAR OF WASTING MY TIME–
Andreaandcoco’s article actually inspired my to write this post. She wrote that instead of having a fear of missing out, she is scared of wasting her time.
“I want to write so many posts,watch movies,read books,binge some series,write and play wih my cat-and all of that at the same time! Sometimes i don´t even know how to start and then the day is already gone. After that i have sometimes days where i just want to sleep.”
The fear of wasting my time just affects me university-related. Last year was really stressful and I somehow forgot how to relax. When I was watching TV or reading a novel, I had a guilty conscience because I should rather do some uni work. I was wasting time I could use to improve myself and get work done. I am still not good at keeping my mind off work in my free time…
Since handing in my big project at New Year’s Eve, I don’t really have much to do for uni anymore. Except for a Chinese exam, I don’t have to study anymore. (No more exam in my life!!!!) I have a lot of free time and I love it! I don’t have the fear of wasting my time in my free time. Of course, I don’t want to chill all day long and lay on the couch but whatever I do, I do it without a guilty conscience.
I want to be free in my free time and I can do whatever I want!
If somebody wants to play videogames all day long in his free time, is he wasting his time? No, because he simply can do so if he enjoys it! I might not be able to read 5 books a month but I still enjoy reading just 1 book! This doesn’t make the one book less important/enjoyable.
Why should I read 5 books stressfully if I could read 1 book easygoing?
What about you? Are you afraid of missing out or wasting your time? Or both?
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